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The first Focusing exercise I recommend is what I call the “Grounding Exercise,” adapted from Bala Jaison’s “Love Exercise.” This exercise is a great way to begin to understand what we mean by inner experience. This exercise is being in a place we feel centered and a sense of grounding. I suggest you try a this exercise as a daily practice, or whenever you’re engaging in something you love. It helps you to expand the goodness of what you love, to make that experience more intricate and expansive. This is the first week’s Focusing exercise in my upcoming book, Mastering the Moment: A Process of Gaining Control Over our Habits Through Mindful Awareness and Process Partnership, a book using Focusing to address unwanted habits. As you go through the video, feel free to press pause to give yourself more time if needed.
Focusing can be profoundly therapeutic when we use it to attend to something in us that is sensing something icky or off. It may be vague, but if we engage with it in a Focusing way, we allow it to be whatever it needs to be and therefore stop resisting it, pushing it away, trying to put other feelings over it, avoiding it, or denying it. When we allow these senses to be and put some attention on them, they almost always shift, even if incrementally. This shifting most often feels just a little bit better, and sometimes significantly better. Once we’ve attended to something in us that’s come up, it has less energy, and we are no longer acting from it. This is why I’ve relied so heavily on Focusing for my book, Mastering the Moment,” which teaches us a way to address unwanted habits. If we can use Focusing to recenter ourselves when we’re triggered then we can act in accordance of our ultimate goals, rather than from some part of us that feels icky and drives us toward our behavior.